Living “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life” by Wayne Dyer

Cover image of Wayne Dyers book

Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer wrote “Change Your Thoughts-Change Your Life – Living the Wisdom of the Tao” where he read, analyzed and meditated on different interpretations of the Tao-Te Ching.   He then wrote an essay for each of the 81 versus which has given all of us a guidebook on “the way” aka the Tao.  He recommended to read an essay a day and in that day, reflect and meditate on the meaning of the verse and how it applies to you.

Wayne did all the hard work and I am grateful because his essays put the Tao-Te Ching in plain english that I can understand.  He wrote in his preface that he had everyone in mind when he meditated and wrote.  Not just politicians, business people or some who is famous;  all of us were in his thoughts.   He made it so easy that I read through it pretty quickly and while some versus stood out to me, others I just read right though but on my second go around, things will be different.

The challenge

In my second reading of this book, I will follow Wayne Dyer’s example and meditate, ponder and practice each verse for a number of days until my spiritual muscle memory is established.   This may take a few days or a week or so, I will follow my gut on this one and only move on to the next verse when I feel I’m ready.  And, of course, I will also write my thoughts and post them to this blog.  I have a feeling this endeavor may take a little bit longer than the year it took Wayne.   It will be worth it!

So stay tuned and Verse 1 is coming up!


Is it a setback or an opportunity?

The doorbell rings and FedEx drives away.

With eager anticipation, I rip open the envelope to look over the contents.

Background:  I’m trying to refi my house so I can get my ex-wife off of the loan.  It’s been a long time since the divorce and she is still tied to the house.  In order to get this refi to happen I need to have at least 20 percent equity in the house so the loan to value is 80.   I have overpaid for years to get the balance down and I always tell my friends that if you want to really commit to someone, buy a house with them.  It’s not easy to get them off of the loan and thankfully my ex is very understanding of the predicament.  But I imagine, she would like to buy a house someday and this loan will hinder that effort.   

The last time I tried for a refi, my loan to value was still not good enough so I worked hard on paying down the balance to get me to where I needed to be.

Now to present day

I’m where I need to be financially, interest rates are going up and I felt it was time to try again.   Based on my last appraisal, I felt that I should be able to get it done.

I was wrong

The package delivered by FedEx was my appraisal and was the key to this whole thing so no pressure.   It came in even lower than the last one almost two years prior and the housing market has only gotten more hot during that time.  Needless to say, I was surprised, disappointed and just a little pissed off.   I can go into a whole op-ed piece about he merits of appraising a house using comps and such but that isn’t the point.

So what is the point?

I won’t let my happiness be dependent on the actions of others such as this appraiser and the status of the loan.   I could have made the choice of being the victim regarding this situation and let it ruin my day, my weekend, my week.   What I did do was let the anger and frustration flow and I acknowledged it and the let in flow out of me just as quickly as it flowed into me.   As Abraham says, I cleaned up my vibration.

Setback or opportunity?  Some would see this as a setback but it really is an opportunity and I’m grateful for what I have learned from it.

What have I learned?

I have learned that I can handle things not going exactly as planned and that I can move forward. (something I wasn’t good at years prior)

I learned that I could have done more to get my balance down

I know that this is the way it was supposed to happen and everything is working out for me and I will be OK no matter what.

Family and the Olympics and Grateful

I am a person who follows law of attraction and follow the teachings of Abraham Hicks.  My vibration tonight was to just enjoy the feeling of my family. Enjoy interactions during dinner and just let it happen.  When I thought we were done for the night and everyone went their separate ways to their rooms to watch Netflix or play on their iPad, I went down to our living room to do some breathing and stretching exercises and take in the opening ceremonies to the games.

My 7 yr old daughter was on the couch playing something on her Kindle and next thing you know, she sets it down and sits next to me and joins in on watching the opening ceremony.  The fireworks, dancers and music caught her attention and held on.  I cherished every minute of it and appreciate the spontaneity and the letting it happen part of it.  It felt natural, just as it should have.

I love it when the Universe helps you out in manifesting what one is wanting.  This was meant to be and as Wayne Dyer says; “There are no coincidences.”   I put out my intention and released all resistance and it all happened so easily.

Just like Abraham said it would.